Dear Rafi Aamer,

I appreciate your big-heartedness. The point you have overlooked in Rasheed Nadeem’s post (#290) is this.

 I have and can stomach lot of gobbledygook and rigmarole of all sorts but what is difficult to stomach are inappropriate remarks that may be an affront to our sense of civility and decency - and that sense is no better revealed than in how we behave towards the opposite gender. That, in fact, is the gauge with which people often measure the level of our cultured-ness (civil-sense).  

In the above remarks the writer is unable to stay gender-neutral and belittles femininity by suggesting that the criteria for judging or interacting with a woman are her looks. Imagine yourself in the shoes of a woman who wishes to share her creativity with others and hoping that she will be treated as an equal and suddenly someone comes and make her realize that she is not.   

Should I explain it further or should I leave it for the reader to ponder on it. I think I will choose the latter because if I explain it further I risk further hurts and if it is hard for someone to see the inappropriateness of these remarks then I think it is harder to offer any help in that matter anyway.  

With respect and warm regards,

Mooquin Abdul Mutaal